Sometimes mental health care is like being stuck in a canoe by yourself. You’re paddling and paddling, and you’re just turning in circles. You might need someone in the canoe with you to help you get moving. Whether than be a therapist or doctor. Sometimes you feel like jumping out of the boat is better than being trapped in limbo, but you’ll find yourself trapped in deep waters.
You’re in over you head, drowning, flounder, and desperately unable to find what direction to head. I want to stress that friends, family, and other loved ones who aren’t trained mental health care professionals shouldn’t be your primary source of stability and assistance during these hard times. While they are a good support net, it’s incredibly hard to put that kind of responsibility on them. Remember that caring for yourself is important for yourself.
As they say on airline flights, please remember to put on your air mask first before assisting those around you. Self-Care is one of the biggest things you can do for yourself. I used to think to myself that my therapist had no idea what they were talking about when they told me to love myself. I had so much self loathing, but I’ve come to realize, how can you expect someone else to love you unconditionally when you cannot even do that yourself?
In an ideal situation, I’d eventually like to be able to climb into a kayak by myself and just paddle around freely. That doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with getting back into a canoe with someone else, because at some points in our lives, it’s okay to acknowledge that we need help.
I suppose that’s where the Willingness versus Willfulness of DBT really comes in handy. I’m still really depressed lately. I miss someone so much. I know that’ll I’ll heal eventually, but life has still been a huge struggle. The Podcast was a big help. If you guys weren’t able to be there for it when we went live, it’s been posted to Elektra’s Youtube Channel.
Elektra, Maria, and Lexzi have been a real joy in my life. I missed the few weeks that we missed doing episodes. I look forward to doing more podcasts with them. And more posts here. As always, thank you for reading my little blog posts. Looking forward to writing tomorrow’s post!