In our DBT Discord, we’ve got a venting channel for when you’re having a hard time. Sometimes talking about your struggles can help. It’s always good though to be cautious about talking about your sadness and depression. Especially to a source outside of your therapist or psychiatrist. Focusing on it can cause you to be stuck in place.
Remember some of the skills from DBT. Accumulate positives. Build Mastery. Cope Ahead. Treat yourself well. Sometimes we’re our hardest critics. We judge ourselves too strongly. If you were talking to someone else about this, you’d probably attempt to build them up, right?
If you have the self awareness to recognize that you are struggling with your mental health, you should consider that a plus. If you’ve taken the step towards getting therapy. Finding medication to try and improve your situation. You should pat yourself on the back. Give yourself some credit.
I know it’s so hard to stay positive sometimes. Things are not fine. You aren’t good. It feels like you are slowly drowning in stress. You’re afraid of panicking. You’re afraid of loosing control of yourself at school or at work or outside your home. Heck, maybe inside your home. Those of us with mental health issues that struggle with suicidal ideations or self harming are constantly at war with our brains.
Just remember that you’ve got this. You’re still here right now. You’re reading this, which means you’re alive and yo have the capability of pulling through. We’re living in a pandemic right now. The world has changed in so many ways that it would boggle the mind. We’re living in an era that will go down in history.
It is OKAY not to be okay. Not just because of COVID. Not just because you’re going through a rough time period. The biggest part of Radical Acceptance my last therapist and I covered was the fact that you can come back to a subject you are struggling to accept. Accepting that it’s okay not to be okay is one that I will struggle with for the rest of my life.
You need to get your brain wrapped around that you are going to fuck up. Because we’re humans and we’re not always going to be able to juggle getting things right. That’s what we do. We make mistakes. We have our bad days. We fuck up and we have our imperfect time periods. Just don’t throw the baby out with the bath water. Look at what’s important.
You are here and eventually things will get better. You will eventually reach a point in your timeline that is not as bad as the worst times. You’re mind will find something positive. And from there, you will pick up the pieces. It might not be perfect, but I don’t think anything ever is.
Sorry for going on that rant, but I really hope that someone that might need that pep talk finds it. Love you, guys!